The magic in the mundane: things I do to elevate my every day life

Because your life is not just one big highlight reel

Apr 18, 2025

I wasn’t planning to write this. I just started putting words down one night when everything felt a little too heavy and somehow, I’ve turned it into a love letter to the version of me that forgot how to feel joy. If you’ve ever felt a little disconnected, a little numb, or like life’s been moving without you… this one’s for you. I hope it makes you feel seen. I hope it reminds you that it’s never too late to come home to yourself🤍

There wasn’t one big moment that woke me up, it was more like a slow unraveling.

The days started blending together. I wasn’t excited about much. I did everything out of convenience instead of intention. I stopped capturing the special moments. I’d scroll through my camera roll and realize I hadn’t taken a single picture in days, sometimes weeks. I just… wasn’t lit up by my own life anymore.

And I’m someone who’s always loved the details. The small, soft things. The kind of person who’d light a candle for no reason or cry over a sunset on a random tuesday. So when I lost that part of myself — the girl who saw the magic in the mundane — it scared me a little.

One day, I just said, “I don’t want to feel like this anymore.”

And nothing changes unless you change. So I did.

🪞The days were blurring together

There’s something really unsettling about realizing you’re just moving through your life instead of living it. I was getting things done, sure — but I wasn’t really feeling any of it.

No real joy, no real presence, no real reflection. Just rinse and repeat.

And I know this happens to all of us. We’re tired, we’re overstimulated, we’re trying to keep up. But the longer I stayed in that loop, the more disconnected I felt. From myself. From the life I was supposed to be building. From my feminine energy, too — I was stuck in go-mode, never just being.

So I started small. I didn’t blow up my routines or go full “that girl” overnight.

I just began to notice again and from there, I started to reclaim the everyday.

☁️ Habits that shifted everything

These aren’t just aesthetic or trendy habits. They’re small things I actually do that have helped me feel more grounded, more present, and more in love with my life again — even when it’s not perfect.

💌 Notes to my future self

I started doing this thing where I’d do something kind now just to make life easier for future me. A sort of ‘hey girl, I got you’ moment.

It started super small. One night I laid out my clothes before bed, because I knew I’d be tired in the morning and wouldn’t feel like thinking. When the morning came and I just slipped everything on without the usual chaos? I literally smiled and whispered, ‘Thank you, babes.’

Now I’m kinda obsessed with doing little things just to take care of the version of me who hasn’t arrived yet. Prepping snacks before I get hangry. Tidying the space before bed so I can wake up without a mess staring me down. Sending her love in the form of tiny actions.

It’s honestly become a form of self love I didn’t know I needed. This quiet, steady reminder that I’m worthy of care — not just in the big moments, but in the tiny, everyday ways too.

🖊️My daily diary

Every night, I write a little diary entry. Sometimes it’s just what I ate and how I felt. Sometimes it’s full of heart rambles and big emotions. The point is it slows me down. I can savor the days instead of letting them slip by.

Even the boring ones. Especially the boring ones.

Reading back through those pages reminds me that I was here. That I did feel. That life wasn’t just a blur — I was living it. And I want to keep doing that.

🌸Chic transitions

Life isn’t made up of big, cinematic moments — it’s built in the hidden, in-between: brushing teeth, walking to the mailbox, car rides. When I started treating those everyday transitions like little rituals, everything softened. Lighting incense before folding laundry. Spritzing perfume after a shower, even if I’m not going anywhere. Playing music while I cook dinner just for me.

Sometimes, it’s as simple as a five-minute pause — a nervous system reset after holding space for my kids during their meltdowns.

Those little breathers key to showing up as my best self.

They’re tiny signals to myself that I’m worth slowing down for — not just on the good days, but on the messy, overstimulated, stretched-too-thin ones, too.

And I am so deeply deserving of that kind of care. We all are.

🎶Ending cry sessions with a happy song

This one’s personal and powerful. I used to avoid sad music because I didn’t want to ‘attract the negative.’ I thought if I focused too much on the heavy stuff, I’d stay stuck there. But healing isn’t about pretending to be okay all the time.

It’s about feeling it fully…and then letting it go.

So now? If I’m crying, I cry. I play the heartbreak song. I feel it. But when I’m ready, even just a little, I end it with a happy track. Something that reminds me joy still exists, even if it’s quiet today.

📱Curating my content

I stopped consuming content that made me feel behind. I started following creators who prioritize softness and depth over hustle and perfection. I cleared space for inspiration, not comparison. What you absorb every day becomes your internal dialogue and I wanted mine to feel calm, cozy, & true.

It’s not about aesthetics

Here’s the thing no one tells you when you start romanticizing your life: It’s not about matching the vibe of someone else’s perfect morning routine. It’s about learning to care again. About yourself. About your space. About the moment you’re in.

That’s what shifted for me. I stopped waiting for the big milestones and started collecting the mini-moments that make life feel meaningful. And when I did that, when I started showing up in the small ways, I felt worthy again. Like I belonged to my own life.

Maybe you’re in your healing era. Maybe you’re rebuilding. Maybe nothing is wrong, it’s just dull. I just want to tell you… it’s okay to start slow.

You don’t need a 5am routine or a pinterest kitchen to feel good again. You just need a few small promises to yourself.

It doesn’t have to be loud. It just has to be yours.

Stay hot❤️‍🔥,

Robin

The Elevated It Girl

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